I am so thrilled to share with you fmG’s FIRST Guest Feature of 2016! This category has been a major hit with the blog. Why? Because the variety of backgrounds, stories, testimonies, and lives is more than just a compilation of virtual vulnerability, but of men and women who have been transformed by the grace and power of God who simply want to share how He is working in their lives.
This guest recently found and added me on Twitter and I’m so glad she did. Once I saw, Jesus, blogger, and Michigan, I knew I had to reach out to her. Her Twitter feed is filled with simply stated encouragement and she is not afraid to share her heart and faith on her blog. Brace yourselves, this one is about to change the world and “Shout Out Radiance.”
Hello, hello! I’m Jen. I am from Marlette, Michigan. Honestly, I am super crazy; let me tell you why! I am an almost college graduate, a director over a dance ministry, a bank teller, a dance instructor, and a blogger. I love to dance, creating things, photography, speaking, writing, music, and watch movies.
I am passionate for the women’s ministry. Women’s ministry was never my original plan but it was definitely God’s plan. I never thought it would be possible but I really have developed a love and a passion for what God has called me to do.
I have an obsession with candles and watches • I was born with blue eyes but then my right eye changed to half brown • I love horses • I hate vegetables but I love bread • Coffee could be an addiction • Purple is my favorite color • I used to be a crazy cat lady • I love the mountains – I am your typical Tumblr hipster wanderlust type of gal • I am a HUGE fan of Once Upon a Time – in fact, Hook is my future husband • I will never stop watching Gilmore Girls • I am obsessed and cannot live without a To-Do list and grocery list.
fashion meets God: How did you come to know the Lord?
Jenifer Fair: I was raised in a Christian home all my life. I asked Jesus into my heart when I was 6 years old after the loss of my grandpa. However, I walked away from the Lord in 2010. When I walked away from God, I was an inch away from becoming an atheist. I no longer believed. I stopped going to church. I doubted everything that I was taught and all that I knew. During the first two years of my rebellion, God would speak to me that I needed to break up with my relationship. Every time, I heard his voice I would ignore him.
In Spring of 2012, God spoke a third time to end the relationship… I will never forget my response! “Leave me alone, God! I am in control, not you. You don’t know my relationship like I do. I don’t need you. I can make this work. Go away because I got this.” Within 15 minutes later, my boyfriend of almost two years broke up with me. I went through hell for several months. I lost 20 pounds and became the crazy ex girlfriend that you hear songs about. One day, I found myself on my knees realizing that it was time to make a change.
In Fall of 2012, I came back to the Lord and believed again. Although I repented, I still wanted to live under my terms and not God’s. I was so stubborn. I thought I could control the steering wheel of my life. Let me tell you this, God is an amazing daddy! He knows exactly how to tame the rebellious. I had to come to a breaking point. I had to suffer a lot more to realize that I needed God desperately. I realized I need him when I had nothing left to give but a broken heart. I was a mess! I was tired of living in sin. I was tired of trying to control the direction of my life. I wanted healing. I wanted to be whole and pure again. I became desperate for him! I wanted to be the woman I was created to be. I knew there was more to life than being a broken record. I rededicated myself to the Lord and have never been the same since October of 2013.
fmG: You’re a Michigan blogger, too! Tell us about it!
JF: I started blogging in the beginning of September in 2015. I started blogging because I had a desire to write and a longing to encourage and share my heart with other women. I have been trying to focus on many different types of topics but I seem to come across writing a lot about singleness, self-worth, purpose, becoming the woman you are meant to be and embracing your season. Sometimes, I feel like I am writing to preach to myself and that’s okay! A lot of my blog posts tend to be exactly what I am struggling with at the moment in hopes to encourage someone who is struggling with the same thing.
fmG: What’s your favorite blog post and why?
JF: My favorite blog post happens to be my first blog post called, “The Father to the Fatherless.” I remembered hating it when I was writing it. I fought with God about it because I did not want to write it. As I began writing it, I cried and allowed myself to be raw and vulnerable. Remember how I said I don’t like being vulnerable? Yeah, a touch outside my comfort zone – more like a lot! I received so much feedback by several men and women who were encouraged by testimony. I fell in love with the blog post because God spoke through me. I was real. I was me. I was speaking what God wanted me to write instead of what I originally planned.
fmG: I can totally relate to your “20 Reasons to be Thankful for Singleness” post. What was the inspiration behind writing it?
JF: Honestly, I hated being single during the holidays for the past three years. Family, friends and strangers would always ask about any potential boyfriends in my life and I would always have to answer “no!” – It bothered me! It didn’t bother me that I was single but it bothered me that I was frowned upon for being single. I felt that that singleness was an awful disease and that everyone could sense it a mile away. As I have grown with the Lord, I wanted to gain a better understanding about why singleness is a gift and learn how to embrace my season. Thanksgiving and Christmas of 2015 was the greatest year of embracing my singleness specifically during the holidays. I felt truly content with being on my own without feeling pressured that I needed to rush to find the man of my dreams and get married. I realized that I could live without needing a man to validate my existence. I realized that I could be the woman I have always wanted to be – even in the midst of my singleness. I pushed aside my negative emotions about singleness and embraced it with a thankful heart because I understood that God knew what was best for my life.
fmG: Has being vulnerable and sharing about God’s love online allowed you to grow in your relationship with Christ? If yes, how so?
JF: Definitely! I am a very guarded person when it comes to my emotions. I am a very private person. God has been trying to peel my heart open by being vulnerable through my blog posts, tweets, Instagram posts, and Facebook statuses. Being vulnerable is uncomfortable but I know God is wanting to clear out my heart by removing the junk that has been built up against the walls of my heart. It has helped me to be real and experience genuine healing. I can’t wait to be raw and vulnerable in more of my upcoming blog posts.
fmG: What are your goals and dreams for your blog and for yourself in 2016?
JF: This is literally my favorite question! My goals and dreams for my blog and #ShoutoutRadiance is to minister to women! My dream is to write a 30-day devotional book and to speak at a women’s conference in the future. I am dreaming big – I want to write a book about my testimony to encourage the hearts of women who have struggled through their self-worth, singleness, dating, purity, and loneliness.
My personal goal and dream is to step outside my comfort zone. I told myself that 2016 is going to be the year where I would overcome my fears. I guarantee that I am going to do it! I want to be more confident and build my faith as I walk onto the water of 2016. I want to believe and dream bigger because I know the impossible is possible through the name of Jesus.
Thank you, Jen, for being so raw and real! Your testimony and redemption by our Redeemer is what so many of us are struggling with. Continue being a light for His Kingdom and pursuing Him!
Follow Jen on Twitter! @jeniferfair
“We want to avoid suffering, death, sin, ashes. But we live in a world crushed and broken and torn, a world God Himself visited to redeem. We receive his poured-out life, and being allowed the high privilege of suffering with Him, may then pour ourselves out for others.”
– Elisabeth Elliot